Sunday, August 26, 2012

What is a girl to do?????

In the last few months I have had a lot going on and haven't really had time to date much, but when I sit back and think about all the guys out there I have no choice but to ask myself...Where am I going to find a guy that will really accept me for who I am? After all, I can be a lot to take...I don't take shit, I don't treat men like they did in the 50s, I’m not a homebody, I’m not domesticated and I’m very opinionated. Basically I'm a girl that thinks like a guy! Usually what I have found is that at first a guy will say "I'm good with that...I like a girl that knows what she wants", but after dating a few months they start to tighten my reins…expecting me to be sitting on the couch every night, cooking dinner and cleaning up after. Well this is when everything goes to hell....because that is not who I am. Yes sure there are guys out there that are not looking to get too serious too soon, but they are usually 1.) immature or 2.) only looking for a one night stand or both. Why can’t there be a happy medium when it comes to dating/relationships? A friend of mine suggested online dating sites and I've window shopped on a few of them, but I'm just not sure it is a good fit for me. Yet I never say never so we will see where that will lead......

 With all that said...here are a few examples of what I've dealt with in the last couple of weeks....after reading this I'm sure the above spiel will make more sense :)

Guy #1: We went out a few weeks ago and within 2 hours he had already informed me that CJ isn't a proper profession for a woman and that I was crazy for having gay friends....yep 1 date ONLY!! After that very horrible date he actually texts me to see if he could see me the next night...my exact text was "if I decide to go out again I will text you"! The piece to resistance is after I posted on FB where I was and what I was doing the following night, he text me "Yeah that was real nice of you to stand me up"....my response was "NOOOOOOOOOO I said IF I wanted to see you again I would text you...I didn't text you, therefore I didn't stand you up". Needless to say that was the end of that and good riddance I might add!!!!

Guy #2: This is a guy I hooked up with in the past, went years without talking to him and then (just my luck) he found me on FB. Well he has been trying to get me to "come see him" for months on end (even though he has had several girlfriends during this time). Aside from the fact that he is obviously a DOG....I think the part about him that annoys me the most is if I happen to message him or respond to one of his messages with a question he NEVER answers it! So guy#2...I stand by what I said to you...in order to be interesting to me, you have to be interested!!!

Don’t get me wrong…I get ask out a lot, but I never have a true connection with any of the guys. All I’m looking for is a guy I’m attracted to both mentally and physically that will let me be me…now where do I find him?

2 comments:

  1. I can totally understand that. I had the same problem before meeting Chris. I can say that finding the right person takes time and also comes up out of no where. The only thing I can tell you to do is go out with friends and get involved in different groups. Try and meet friends of friends and eventually down the line it will work out. :)

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  2. Thanks Alex...I've always done the whole long term relationship thing, but obviously with the wrong people. From here on out I'm not going to look for "Mr. Right" I'm going to enjoy my life and let him find me. :)

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